RIP Potty Mouth

Heard something and I just slept with it and carried it with me until it came bursting out. Ive been guilty of it and ive checked myself about it on several occasions but never enough to no longer indulge in it. While discussing it with my girls, some admit to being a victim of it but 2 similar responses caught my attention and stuck with me. I just hope it sticks even when im provoked. In relationships we feel we have to argue yell and act out all in the name of love. This proves how hard we love this person because if they really didnt matter would they evoke this emotion out of us? No they wouldnt is what one would think BUT the answer is quite opposite. Yes they would but if you are important to me and vice versa there should be a way for us to express our discomforts to each other without bringing each other down and most definitely without the insults. We have a habit of perpertuating these bad habits in relationships instead of being pro-peace, overstanding and taking the relationship to the next level and actually not indulge in bringing each other down. One girlfriend says she never comes "outta pocket" in a disagreement because shes only mad for the moment, she will get over said argument and wont say anything that will jeopardize the relationships tomorrow. My other friend said "what ive been through in the past has nothing to do with what we're fussing about now." LIGHTBULB If we cared for them in the least bit wouldnt it be then that we would have control over our tongues and hold back? Besides there is some truth to the venom being spewed because we in all honesty just want that person to feel the pain that we feel or have felt from what they've said. We just want to pass that energy back and make them feel it too. Things that sauntered through our thoughts and goods and not so goods in our relationships that we do notice that would normally be omitted from conversation because they in actuality dont build the relationship have their place to be released and its to the universe not to the important one. Dealing with situations like this ive realized that ive gotten good but good needs to get better. Im working towards not arguing PERIOD. Not with my boyfriend, bestfriend, mom, dad, sisters, brothers...you get the point. I want to master a way to express myself and not indulge in a disagreement without having the other party feel as if Im downplaying, or avoiding a situation which is what ive been faced with as of today. What ive also started doing is sending it right back. As in let it bounce off of me and let u have it. So every bad word, evil wish and sad song i sent it back to the argue-y. I am no longer a part of it. Now I am still growing so I do have the tendency to renig whenever my self esteem gets low (yea rite, like u dont have down times) and thats something that I am also dealing with. I gotta recognize my emotional "cycle" it may not help but I always apologize never sorry am I. My friends who have made this decision early appear genuinely happier than us with the potty mouth syndrome. So as a woman its time to put the potty mouth to bed. So unbecoming of us to remain so hateful, vindictive and spiteful. Im free of and from all this. Ive done my part in destroying some relationships and im done.